By Anne Christine Aksnes We all want to become the best parent possible. Not in a competitive way, but for our child. This article is about one of the biggest keys I discovered when it comes to children. It’s about how we understand them, how we see them and what we think about them. I can remember when people had a completely different attitude to children from what I and many with me have today. People would say things like: “She’s just being difficult”. “Oh no, you have to do it like this, or in that way. You have to be strict. You have to discipline them.” I can remember the day when I read the first article about the theory that children are always trying to do the best they can. In Norway, it was called a paradigm shift in how we view the child, and they started gathering proof of the theory that children do the best they know. One of the things they would say was: “There is no such thing as a difficult child. There’s only children who face difficulties.” This resonated with me and it impacted how I understood my children more than almost anything else I’ve learned. Children are actually always trying to do the best they can, and if they are not able to do so it’s because something is hindering them. Something is not right; they don’t understand what you want, or something has happened that makes them unable to act accordingly to how you want them to behave. Let’s look at the statement: “There are no such thing as difficult children. There’s only children facing difficulties.” When I grew up, if a child were refusing to do what [...]

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